Take Courage: Make No Excuses

There are some instances when the truth cannot be faced directly in the eye and we cope by making excuses for ourselves for behavior that we are supposed to be accountable with. This rationalization is like a defense mechanism to lessen the blow of our mistakes or indecisions. Habitual excuses do not allow you to reach your potential because it is a very dangerous mindset to limit your capacity because of fear of the unknown.

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Making Excuses is Not Proactive

There are hosts of reasons why people make excuses. This is often driven by circumstances, personality, and unreasonable fears. The following are the most common reasons why:

·         Fear of the unknown. Uncertainty drives people to embrace the status quo rather than take risks of what is beyond the comfort zone. The unknown represents something that they cannot have any control of. Thus, venturing into a road that is not trodden will produce feelings of both uncertainty and inadequacy.

·         Fear of failure. Fear is like a trap that holds a person down. It is the voice that resounds with “what ifs”, and this negativity will permeate the mind, rendering it paralyzed and unable to step forward. Failure is an opportunity to grow, but people who are making excuses will not see it as such.

·         Fear of change. Change is taking away bad habits and embracing new ones. Change brings about feelings of inadequacy. People who have been programmed to think that there is but one way of doing things will not venture into embracing new ones.

·         Fear of responsibility. One sign of a mature person is to be accountable for his or her own limitations, failures, and weaknesses. People who try to make excuses always look for some circumstances or person to blame when things go wrong.

·         Lack of Confidence in one’s abilities. Excuses maybe a product of low self-esteem; thus, a person’s perception of himself is always in the negative. This would lead to negative self-talk that fuels feelings of littleness or inadequacy.

These are just but a few reasons why making excuses is detrimental for one’s growth and development as an individual. They are like steel cables that hold you back from realizing that you can reach their full potential and grow. These excuses can turn into regrets, over-analysis, bad judgments, indecisions, and lack of creativity. Lastly, it is a sign of irresponsibility and emotional maturity.

Change Your Mind to Change Your Behavior

The antidote for making excuses is to train the mind to think in more positive and pro-active ways. This is not an easy process. First, you have to be aware when the horns of excuses creep into your mind in order to identify the circumstances that precipitates this. Second, list all the fears and negative messages that you say to yourself in these circumstances. It is important to identify what type of excuse you are using. Finally, make a list of positive ways to counter these negative thoughts and change them into more positive ones. Then you will slowly release the habit of the excuses that reined your life.

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